A fantastic Chinese proverb states ” there are two things to aim at in life, first is to get what you want and after that is to enjoy it, only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.
Looking at this proverb it would appear so simple to orchestrate. All you have to do is get what you want and then enjoy it. Then the problem begins as you have to know exactly what it is that you want, perhaps easier said than done.
Dreams As A Child
The process of knowing exactly what one wants to do, be and have, seems to come very easy us to us when we are children and only starts to become more difficult as we grow older.
In my school days as a child growing up, you could pay dearly for an over active imagination and if there was one thing I had, it was an over active imagination. I must admit to there being more than a few occasions that the black board rubber or chalk were thrown in my general direction. The comments that followed were of the ilk of ” Bide you are day dreaming”, ” Bide are you with us” and ” will you concentrate”.
The teacher was right I did have a concentration problem especially with the invention of the Spinning Jenny by James Hargreaves or the opening of the Stockton to Darlington railway as good as both of those inventions were. However I had no concentration problems for flying down the wing beating a man two or three times like the great George Best and putting the ball over for Manchester United.
At that age I knew exactly what I wanted to do. Although as hard as I tried I never went on to develop the talents on the football field of George Best, but was a lot closer with the off field talents. Between the ages of 19 – 22 years old I could probably have gone beer for beer with him, but I must admit to falling a bit short on the Miss worlds though.
The only reason I bring up the football is as a child growing up all I wanted to do was play like George Best and play for Manchester United and it was that simple. So what can help us in the pursuit of defining our likes and dislikes or the process of self discovery.
Peaceful and inspiring spot for thought
Keeping A Journal
One of the key ways of discovering one’s likes and dislikes is to not only be aware of them, but to record them into a journal that should be kept close at hand at all times. The journal is the ultimate piece of equipment for capturing your ideas and information and this is very much from the western world.
In the fantastic book ” The Treasury Of Quotes” by the master and America’s foremost business philosopher Mr Jim Rohn, Jim say’s this on having a journal.
” Be a collector of good ideas, but don’t trust your memory. The best collecting place for all the ideas and information that comes your way is your journal”.
Perhaps an even better idea is to splash out on two journals, one for capturing your great ideas and information and one for your inner most thoughts and feelings. This will begin to unfold your true identity and perhaps should be best kept in a safe that only you have the code for.
Jim Rohn again says in the book The Treasury of Quotes: ” The reason I spend so much money for my journals is to press me to find something valuable to put in them”.
Life design is certainly something that is created, because if you don’t spend time creating it, then some one else will create it for you. So it is certainly worth while spending the time on it. As another proverb of ancient China goes ” Anything great is long in the making”.
The last great quote on journals in The Treasury Of Quotes by Jim Rohn is this, ”There are three things to leave behind: Your photographs, your library, and your personal journals. These things are certainly going to be more valuable to future generations than your furniture”.
Jim Rohn certainly left us with his incredible knowledge and wisdom collected from over the years as he passed away in December 2009. I had the sheer pleasure of attending and meeting Jim Rohn at a seminar in 1990 in Reading, England and a more inspiring man I’ve yet to meet. I certainly recorded all my notes from that day in to a journal, in fact my pencil was in constant use. The great man’s work lives on and you can buy ” The Treasury Of Quotes right here http://www.engagingthailand.com/Easternandwesternsecrets.html
The philosophy of the west is down to the all out assault on being all that you can, having major ambitions, goals and striving to fulfill them. The pursuit of striving to achieve all that you can in all that you do and becoming the best in your chosen field.
Dreams and aspirations are of course a necessary thing as in the book ” The importance of Liiving” by Lin Yutang the author states that amongst families of children, there is usually a child who dreams more and one who dreams less. The author shows a preference for the child who dreams more, even if he is the sadder one. No matter if he is sad or not he is far more likely to experience greater joys, thrills and supreme heights of ecstasy. So hence we put forward some eastern alternatives.
Ambition and aspiring to be on the other side of the coin can also lead to never being contented. The private aspires to become a corporal and the corporal aspires to become a captain and the captain sets his sights on becoming a major and on it continues. The wife you have is marvellous, but the wife two doors down, you believe to be better. The food in the restaurant that you ordered seemed right at the time, but when it arrived the food that your friend ordered was better and you wish you’d had that.
Some time away from the hectic life
The Half And Half Philosophy
In the book ”The Importance Of Living” by Lin Yutang the half and half philosophy is put forward as perhaps a fine way to live your life.
Half a Confucianist style of seeking, exploring and finding the knowledge of things to reach an understanding of and half the Taoist escapist attitude of heading off in to the mountains to live as a hermit and play the role of simple fisherman amongst the beauty of nature and completely carefree. Yes, no need to choose a totally carefree life or the hectic, busy life with all its responsibilities, perhaps the answer does lie somewhere in between action and inaction.
Five half and half examples from the book ” The Importance of Living” by Lin Yutang
- He is most wisely drunk who is half drunk
- Half lazily active and half actively lazy
- Not so poor that he cannot pay his rent, and not so rich that he doesn’t have to work a little or couldn’t wish to have slightly more to help his friends.
- Living in half fame and semi obscurity
- A wife who’s not too simple and not too smart.
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Is this what makes one happy
Is This What Makes Me Happy
In the book ” Living in the Tao: Guide to Self Discovery by Mantak Chia and W.U. Wei the Taoist way of learning to think with the heart and feel with the mind is put forward as opposed to the normal western way of thinking with our minds and feeling with our hearts.
Whilst going through the experiences of life we tend to react instead of act. We react to whatever is requested of us, responding to the challenge without ever stopping and asking
- Do I really want to do this or not want to do this
- Is this really good for me
- Is this what I really want for me
- Is this what makes me happy
Our reaction is driven by the challenged ego saying yes I can do this and yes I can do that, because it never wants to feel inferior and this is the process of reacting instead of thinking.
The key process in designing all areas of life is to find out what makes you happy, do I want to do or not want to do this. As the book ”Living In The Tao: Guide to Self Discovery” by Mantak Chia and W.U. Wei states Find out what makes you happy and sustain yourself on that.
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